One of love and life's hindrances is the lack or absence of communication between people. A lot of us women tend to keep the anger and pain inside and not talk about our thoughts because we get scared that the people around us might get affected or misinterpret things. The funny thing about it is that is what is most likely to happen. A lot of people come to me for advice but I would rather listen more than say more. My guidance counselor trained me these things when I was in college. Back when I could remember how inferior I was about people around me. I could say I am not who I really was before- shy, timid, scared and all. As I facilitated my peers in guidance sessions, I gained the strength that would equip me to become a better friend, a better teacher and a better mom for my kids. I came to understand slowly but surely a lot of things in life. However you may call it I call it realization. Funny how it comes naturally that people talk to me openly about their fears and dreams in life. I could even talk to them on telling the truth about their deepestr darkest secrets. I don't hypnotize, I just listen. The secret on how to do this is to build relationship of trust. We open up when we feel the trust.

Women in particular are overly sensitive about things because of a lot of factors may it be inside them or outside them. Especially with filipino girls, I think we always put the gap around us between others when we don't feel safe anymore even to our closest of family and friends. We call that gap "silence". A time out to ourselves. I think it is more of cultural background that we tend to follow the trend of not talking to our spouses and friends when we don't understand them. But in a way how can we understand them in return? Or how can we be understood if we are scared of the encounter? Ahhh. There we are, we are scared that people might not understand how we feel and think. They might find us cruel instead of nice if we say things. If we feel bad inside and just keep it will be like molten lava. One of these days it will still come out. It will still explode. So while we are not in verge of anger it would be better to express how we feel now.